Comments for Social Primer http://www.socialprimer.com Manners, Conversation, Style & Handling Your Liquor Fri, 03 Feb 2012 21:29:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 Comment on Grooming – A Man Shaves His Face & Combs His Hair by Amory http://www.socialprimer.com/2012/01/grooming-%e2%80%93-a-man-shaves-his-face-combs-his-hair/#comment-3691 Amory Fri, 03 Feb 2012 21:29:10 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=5256#comment-3691 Dear SP, You are correct about soap being soap. I prefer Cashmere Bouquet ($1.30 for two bars at my local market). The classic scent always brings back fond memories of my squash-playing days at the Yale Club, which supplied Cashmere Bouquet in the showers. All the best, Amory Dear SP,
You are correct about soap being soap. I prefer Cashmere Bouquet ($1.30 for two bars at my local market). The classic scent always brings back fond memories of my squash-playing days at the Yale Club, which supplied Cashmere Bouquet in the showers.
All the best,
Amory

]]> Comment on Grooming – A Man Shaves His Face & Combs His Hair by ADW http://www.socialprimer.com/2012/01/grooming-%e2%80%93-a-man-shaves-his-face-combs-his-hair/#comment-3685 ADW Wed, 01 Feb 2012 23:28:33 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=5256#comment-3685 Dear SP, Thank you for responding. I am very gratified to see that you took my concerns seriously, although I will admit to a certain sensitive (not to say over-sensitivy) on this topic. This is not directly related to this article, but I'd like to thank you for the work you've put in to this blog. It helped me catch and correct a downward slide in my manners which I had not even noticed. I worded these thanks better before, but seem to have lost them by accidentally closing a browser tab. Oh well. The sentiment still stands. Best regards, ADW Dear SP,

Thank you for responding. I am very gratified to see that you took my concerns seriously, although I will admit to a certain sensitive (not to say over-sensitivy) on this topic.

This is not directly related to this article, but I’d like to thank you for the work you’ve put in to this blog. It helped me catch and correct a downward slide in my manners which I had not even noticed.

I worded these thanks better before, but seem to have lost them by accidentally closing a browser tab. Oh well. The sentiment still stands.

Best regards,
ADW

]]> Comment on Grooming – A Man Shaves His Face & Combs His Hair by ADW http://www.socialprimer.com/2012/01/grooming-%e2%80%93-a-man-shaves-his-face-combs-his-hair/#comment-3678 ADW Tue, 31 Jan 2012 17:26:08 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=5256#comment-3678 <em>Dear SP, I liked most of this advice, though I'll throw out two things: your own body chemistry determines how much washing is too much -- I find I have to wash my hair every other shower in order to keep it from looking greasy. The other point is not as complimentary: your comment about gay people is rather uncalled for, and also plays into the (not always true) stereotype that all homosexuals are effeminate. It may not be my place to correct you, but I will tell you the best advice I've ever heard on manners (courtesy of my dad): the purpose of etiquette is to make other people comfortable around you. In my opinion, your throwaway line has the opposite effect, and is a black mark on an otherwise good piece. ---ADW</em><em> <em>Dear ADW, Thank you for taking the time to not only read the post, but to comment. For the first point, the disclaimer at the bottom states this is one man's routine: mine. Your second point is also well-taken regarding that line. Anyone who knows me, met me or followed this blog for a while (and reads closely) will know that offense is not intended. I suppose we could argue that stereotypes exist for a reason and that is that they tend to run true more often than they are false. I would also imagine a market study would show that the majority of the marketing for this type of product would be toward gay men. I could be wrong. This post is meant to be the most rudimentary advice. And it is written with tongue in cheek, as most of all the posts on this site are. The Bill of Rites book is certainly intended that way. Article Eight in the book begins "Gay, Straight, Bi or curious, a man opens the door for a woman." If anyone is seriously offended, please let me know via email at sp@socialprimer.com (in complete confidence and privacy) and I'll address that issue if it arises. A little line like, Hey, I'm gay but I never use moisturizer." should be a good start. But I will tell you, I am not one for political correctness, never have been, but I also do not want to offend. Cordially, SP Dear SP,
I liked most of this advice, though I’ll throw out two things: your own body chemistry determines how much washing is too much — I find I have to wash my hair every other shower in order to keep it from looking greasy. The other point is not as complimentary: your comment about gay people is rather uncalled for, and also plays into the (not always true) stereotype that all homosexuals are effeminate. It may not be my place to correct you, but I will tell you the best advice I’ve ever heard on manners (courtesy of my dad): the purpose of etiquette is to make other people comfortable around you. In my opinion, your throwaway line has the opposite effect, and is a black mark on an otherwise good piece. —ADW

Dear ADW,
Thank you for taking the time to not only read the post, but to comment. For the first point, the disclaimer at the bottom states this is one man’s routine: mine. Your second point is also well-taken regarding that line. Anyone who knows me, met me or followed this blog for a while (and reads closely) will know that offense is not intended. I suppose we could argue that stereotypes exist for a reason and that is that they tend to run true more often than they are false. I would also imagine a market study would show that the majority of the marketing for this type of product would be toward gay men. I could be wrong. This post is meant to be the most rudimentary advice. And it is written with tongue in cheek, as most of all the posts on this site are. The Bill of Rites book is certainly intended that way. Article Eight in the book begins “Gay, Straight, Bi or curious, a man opens the door for a woman.”

If anyone is seriously offended, please let me know via email at sp@socialprimer.com (in complete confidence and privacy) and I’ll address that issue if it arises. A little line like, Hey, I’m gay but I never use moisturizer.” should be a good start. But I will tell you, I am not one for political correctness, never have been, but I also do not want to offend.
Cordially,
SP

]]> Comment on Grooming – A Man Shaves His Face & Combs His Hair by Reggie Darling http://www.socialprimer.com/2012/01/grooming-%e2%80%93-a-man-shaves-his-face-combs-his-hair/#comment-3676 Reggie Darling Tue, 31 Jan 2012 04:16:33 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=5256#comment-3676 Right on, brother. As I wrote last year on my blog, all men over the age of 40 should shave EVERY DAY. No exceptions! Right on, brother. As I wrote last year on my blog, all men over the age of 40 should shave EVERY DAY. No exceptions!

]]> Comment on Duck Head Comes Home by JET http://www.socialprimer.com/2012/01/duck-head-comes-home/#comment-3675 JET Mon, 30 Jan 2012 17:18:39 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=5238#comment-3675 Just ordered 2 pair. Hope they are as good as the originals....Thanks for the promo code Just ordered 2 pair. Hope they are as good as the originals….Thanks for the promo code

]]> Comment on Grooming – A Man Shaves His Face & Combs His Hair by cRc http://www.socialprimer.com/2012/01/grooming-%e2%80%93-a-man-shaves-his-face-combs-his-hair/#comment-3668 cRc Sat, 28 Jan 2012 05:06:29 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=5256#comment-3668 Dear SP, very nice knowledge indeed. i have been told by many women that i look better (sexy as they say) with a little scruff therefore i trim it very short daily and only shave for formal events, dinners etc. i'm sure i already know the answer but your thoughts? cRc <em>Dear cRc, You know where I'm going and what I'm going to say. Far be it from me to question many women, but sorry. I do not like the unshaven look. Not on you, me, TV actors, movie stars, models or athletes. Yes, the Hollywood scruff looks good on a few men and if you're one of them, then do what works. But, and this pains me to say it, the scruff has no place in business. I will forgive you, just as I forgive those who goatee, but, I must say for the record, the scruff look is not ideal. It often looks dirty and lazy, even when it's meticulously trimmed. The look is not acceptable any place where serious business is done. Only my opinion, and Lord knows I have many. The good news is, I am sure we agree on many other points which matter more. Cordially. SP</em> Dear SP,
very nice knowledge indeed. i have been told by many women that i look better (sexy as they say) with a little scruff therefore i trim it very short daily and only shave for formal events, dinners etc. i’m sure i already know the answer but your thoughts?
cRc

Dear cRc,
You know where I’m going and what I’m going to say. Far be it from me to question many women, but sorry. I do not like the unshaven look. Not on you, me, TV actors, movie stars, models or athletes. Yes, the Hollywood scruff looks good on a few men and if you’re one of them, then do what works. But, and this pains me to say it, the scruff has no place in business. I will forgive you, just as I forgive those who goatee, but, I must say for the record, the scruff look is not ideal. It often looks dirty and lazy, even when it’s meticulously trimmed. The look is not acceptable any place where serious business is done. Only my opinion, and Lord knows I have many. The good news is, I am sure we agree on many other points which matter more.
Cordially.
SP

]]> Comment on Grooming – A Man Shaves His Face & Combs His Hair by LR http://www.socialprimer.com/2012/01/grooming-%e2%80%93-a-man-shaves-his-face-combs-his-hair/#comment-3666 LR Sat, 28 Jan 2012 01:33:37 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=5256#comment-3666 Dear SP. I very much enjoyed this post. I appreciated your mentioning a tried and true inexpensive product like cetaphil as well as a more natural product like Kiehl's. Might you happen to know of any all natural cologne? Such as the gentlman's version of Lavinilla? LR <em>Dear LR, Thank you for writing. I am afraid I do not know of any all natural colognes. Anyone? Cordially, SP</em> Dear SP.
I very much enjoyed this post. I appreciated your mentioning a tried and true inexpensive product like cetaphil as well as a more natural product like Kiehl’s. Might you happen to know of any all natural cologne? Such as the gentlman’s version of Lavinilla?
LR

Dear LR,
Thank you for writing. I am afraid I do not know of any all natural colognes. Anyone?
Cordially,
SP

]]> Comment on Duck Head Comes Home by HGB http://www.socialprimer.com/2012/01/duck-head-comes-home/#comment-3655 HGB Tue, 24 Jan 2012 22:03:09 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=5238#comment-3655 We don't know that they are anything like the originals, yet, beyond the logo. I do hope they are, loved my old Duck Heads. We don’t know that they are anything like the originals, yet, beyond the logo. I do hope they are, loved my old Duck Heads.

]]> Comment on Duck Head Comes Home by Charlie http://www.socialprimer.com/2012/01/duck-head-comes-home/#comment-3652 Charlie Tue, 24 Jan 2012 17:51:24 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=5238#comment-3652 Yea! Love Duck Head, reminds me of college. Social Primer gets it right, again. Yea! Love Duck Head, reminds me of college. Social Primer gets it right, again.

]]> Comment on Social Introductions by Blake http://www.socialprimer.com/2008/10/social-introductions/#comment-3617 Blake Fri, 13 Jan 2012 21:52:21 +0000 http://hyespace.com/socialprimer/?p=73#comment-3617 I'd have to disagree very slightly. I believe that, regardless of rank or situation, a man must always be presented to a woman. I’d have to disagree very slightly. I believe that, regardless of rank or situation, a man must always be presented to a woman.

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