Comments on: A Man Holds the Door http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/12/a-man-holds-the-door-2/ Manners, Conversation, Style & Handling Your Liquor Fri, 03 Feb 2012 21:29:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Megan http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/12/a-man-holds-the-door-2/#comment-3232 Megan Mon, 11 Jul 2011 00:14:39 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=1652#comment-3232 I love, love, love your blog, SP! I'm so relieved there are other like-minded people when it comes to this--- it often seems like "The Gentleman" is a dying breed. I am a 23 year old woman living in Hilton Head and I have to say that even though we are only an hour and a half from Charleston it seems all manners get lost somewhere on Highway 17! I think it's so funny because I always hold the door for my girlfriends and you can see how awkward they feel... but I just think it's little courtesies like this that to some may seem silly that make the world a little sweeter. My brother was raised to be a gentleman and I was raised to expect (and give) a certain level of respect to/from others. Do you know how many times that has earned me the label of High Maintenance? For "expecting" these simple things you outline here.... I love, love, love your blog, SP! I’m so relieved there are other like-minded people when it comes to this— it often seems like “The Gentleman” is a dying breed. I am a 23 year old woman living in Hilton Head and I have to say that even though we are only an hour and a half from Charleston it seems all manners get lost somewhere on Highway 17! I think it’s so funny because I always hold the door for my girlfriends and you can see how awkward they feel… but I just think it’s little courtesies like this that to some may seem silly that make the world a little sweeter. My brother was raised to be a gentleman and I was raised to expect (and give) a certain level of respect to/from others. Do you know how many times that has earned me the label of High Maintenance? For “expecting” these simple things you outline here….

]]> By: Joe http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/12/a-man-holds-the-door-2/#comment-1910 Joe Thu, 21 Oct 2010 19:50:43 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=1652#comment-1910 Being a young man raised in the south, I try to always open the door for a lady. However in my doing so I have encountered a problem. I will open the door for the lady and hold it open for her to walk through, but then a line occurs behind her. I usually remain there, holding the door for everyone. But what started as a courteous gesture turns into a job as a doorman. What is the appropriate action to take in this situation? Thanks Being a young man raised in the south, I try to always open the door for a lady. However in my doing so I have encountered a problem. I will open the door for the lady and hold it open for her to walk through, but then a line occurs behind her. I usually remain there, holding the door for everyone. But what started as a courteous gesture turns into a job as a doorman. What is the appropriate action to take in this situation? Thanks

]]> By: Robert http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/12/a-man-holds-the-door-2/#comment-1547 Robert Wed, 26 May 2010 16:26:58 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=1652#comment-1547 Sadly, I posted at length, and the post was lost in cyberspace. That being the case, I will forgo the lengthy post and simply say thank you so much for a very enjoyable read! Sadly, I posted at length, and the post was lost in cyberspace. That being the case, I will forgo the lengthy post and simply say thank you so much for a very enjoyable read!

]]> By: Social Primer http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/12/a-man-holds-the-door-2/#comment-1526 Social Primer Sat, 15 May 2010 22:08:16 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=1652#comment-1526 [...] etiquette rules is to protect or shield a woman from harm or discomfort: walking on the curbside, holding the door, following her up the stairs and preceding her down, or entering a dark room before her. The usual [...] [...] etiquette rules is to protect or shield a woman from harm or discomfort: walking on the curbside, holding the door, following her up the stairs and preceding her down, or entering a dark room before her. The usual [...]

]]> By: KG http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/12/a-man-holds-the-door-2/#comment-1021 KG Sat, 19 Dec 2009 22:31:13 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=1652#comment-1021 I would just like to say that my husband has always opened the doors from our very first date to this morning coming home from some friends' house after breakfast. When it rains and we're out, he'll go get our truck from the parking lot and bring it to the door, hop out and open my door for me. I am proud to be married to a gentleman! I would just like to say that my husband has always opened the doors from our very first date to this morning coming home from some friends’ house after breakfast.

When it rains and we’re out, he’ll go get our truck from the parking lot and bring it to the door, hop out and open my door for me.

I am proud to be married to a gentleman!

]]> By: Bill Vickery http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/12/a-man-holds-the-door-2/#comment-1010 Bill Vickery Sun, 13 Dec 2009 03:16:31 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=1652#comment-1010 Excellent post. Since I am a southern man and try to be a gentlemen as taught by my grandmother, I open the door for a woman and always will and I have tried to teach my son the same courtesy. After After 40 years of marriage to the same lady she still appreciates my opening the door. Excellent post. Since I am a southern man and try to be a gentlemen as taught by my grandmother, I open the door for a woman and always will and I have tried to teach my son the same courtesy. After After 40 years of marriage to the same lady she still appreciates my opening the door.

]]> By: James Abend http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/12/a-man-holds-the-door-2/#comment-1007 James Abend Fri, 11 Dec 2009 12:34:14 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=1652#comment-1007 Excellent post, SP! It always annoys me when I see a man lazing in the driver's seat of a car while a lady is trying to get into the car and out of the rain. Very common sight, I'm sad to say. Thanks also for the bit about walking up/down stairs, I was not too sure about that myself. Excellent post, SP!
It always annoys me when I see a man lazing in the driver’s seat of a car while a lady is trying to get into the car and out of the rain. Very common sight, I’m sad to say.
Thanks also for the bit about walking up/down stairs, I was not too sure about that myself.

]]> By: W. Vernon Trotter http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/12/a-man-holds-the-door-2/#comment-1005 W. Vernon Trotter Thu, 10 Dec 2009 21:23:02 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=1652#comment-1005 More often ignored nowdays is the courtesy of the man walking near the curb when strolling with a lady. Most young people are totally ignorant of this today. More often ignored nowdays is the courtesy of the man walking near the curb when strolling with a lady. Most young people are totally ignorant of this today.

]]> By: CF http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/12/a-man-holds-the-door-2/#comment-1004 CF Thu, 10 Dec 2009 20:49:32 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=1652#comment-1004 Without realising, my father has always done this for us. He always says its for our safety. If we fall down the stairs, he will aways be there to catch us. Congratulations on this last post! Without realising, my father has always done this for us. He always says its for our safety. If we fall down the stairs, he will aways be there to catch us.

Congratulations on this last post!

]]> By: Mr X http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/12/a-man-holds-the-door-2/#comment-1000 Mr X Wed, 09 Dec 2009 19:51:33 +0000 http://www.socialprimer.com/?p=1652#comment-1000 A fantastic post, though I only wish it wasn't necessary. Why don't people realize that this is simply a matter of common courtesy? Perhaps a silly question but I will ask it nonetheless: if you are going through a door that opens outwards (i.e. away from you) do you open it and hold it without walking through, or walk through and hold it from the other side? It is sometimes quite awkward (physically, I mean) to do the former, though I believe it's more correct. Dear Mr. X, You are correct. You would push through the door and hold it open from the other side. Cordially, SP A fantastic post, though I only wish it wasn’t necessary. Why don’t people realize that this is simply a matter of common courtesy?

Perhaps a silly question but I will ask it nonetheless: if you are going through a door that opens outwards (i.e. away from you) do you open it and hold it without walking through, or walk through and hold it from the other side? It is sometimes quite awkward (physically, I mean) to do the former, though I believe it’s more correct.

Dear Mr. X,
You are correct. You would push through the door and hold it open from the other side.

Cordially,
SP

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