Comments on: A Man Stands http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/06/a-man-stands/ Manners, Conversation, Style & Handling Your Liquor Wed, 28 Jul 2010 04:42:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Ask SP http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/06/a-man-stands/comment-page-1/#comment-841 Ask SP Wed, 21 Oct 2009 21:29:24 +0000 http://new.socialprimer.com/?p=1012#comment-841 [...] done with new acquaintances by the way. Once you know someone you can confide what you will. (See A Man Stands for more on this subject.) Cordially, [...] [...] done with new acquaintances by the way. Once you know someone you can confide what you will. (See A Man Stands for more on this subject.) Cordially, [...]

]]> By: Ask SP http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/06/a-man-stands/comment-page-1/#comment-842 Ask SP Wed, 21 Oct 2009 21:29:24 +0000 http://new.socialprimer.com/?p=1012#comment-842 [...] done with new acquaintances by the way. Once you know someone you can confide what you will. (See A Man Stands for more on this subject.) Cordially, [...] [...] done with new acquaintances by the way. Once you know someone you can confide what you will. (See A Man Stands for more on this subject.) Cordially, [...]

]]> By: Maret http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/06/a-man-stands/comment-page-1/#comment-488 Maret Tue, 07 Jul 2009 21:59:13 +0000 http://new.socialprimer.com/?p=1012#comment-488 I have made this mistake, (sit/shake) several times. But I am trying to become a better gentleman and felt it was more appropriate to stand. It is always better to err on the side of caution. (unsigned) Maret Dear Maret, I was once with a friend at a social engagement when he spotted a fellow he was interested in doing some business with. When my friend approached the man to extend his hand, the man never stood and offered only a limp fish of a handshake. I pulled my friend aside and informed him no good would come of any business with this cad as it was obvious to me he did not respect my friend. A harsh assessment on my part perhaps, but in the end I was proven right in telling him. The man's true nature was soon revealed and my friend was relieved he was not caught up in the mess. Cordially, SP I have made this mistake, (sit/shake) several times. But I am trying to become a better gentleman and felt it was more appropriate to stand.
It is always better to err on the side of caution.

(unsigned) Maret

Dear Maret,
I was once with a friend at a social engagement when he spotted a fellow he was interested in doing some business with. When my friend approached the man to extend his hand, the man never stood and offered only a limp fish of a handshake. I pulled my friend aside and informed him no good would come of any business with this cad as it was obvious to me he did not respect my friend. A harsh assessment on my part perhaps, but in the end I was proven right in telling him. The man’s true nature was soon revealed and my friend was relieved he was not caught up in the mess.
Cordially,
SP

]]> By: Gentleman Mac http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/06/a-man-stands/comment-page-1/#comment-275 Gentleman Mac Fri, 05 Jun 2009 20:39:32 +0000 http://new.socialprimer.com/?p=1012#comment-275 I have done this on several occasions and my wife does not like it at all. In fact, she has forbidden me from standing when she leaves or arrives at the table or for doing it for others. What about those situations, or others where it would just be really uncomfortable to attempt? Dear GM, As much as I believe manners are not conditional, there is always an exception to the rule. If you are sitting around the kitchen table or relaxed outside for a casual barbecue, it might seem stiff and formal to stand every time and you would be forgiven in granting your wife's wishes. After all, what is being well-mannered but making those around you feel comfortable? But in public and especially in formal situations, your wife is going to have to cut you some slack. Maybe you can compromise and just slightly rise in your chair. Thanks for writing and keep strong and civil. Cordially, SP I have done this on several occasions and my wife does not like it at all. In fact, she has forbidden me from standing when she leaves or arrives at the table or for doing it for others. What about those situations, or others where it would just be really uncomfortable to attempt?

Dear GM,
As much as I believe manners are not conditional, there is always an exception to the rule. If you are sitting around the kitchen table or relaxed outside for a casual barbecue, it might seem stiff and formal to stand every time and you would be forgiven in granting your wife’s wishes. After all, what is being well-mannered but making those around you feel comfortable? But in public and especially in formal situations, your wife is going to have to cut you some slack. Maybe you can compromise and just slightly rise in your chair.
Thanks for writing and keep strong and civil.
Cordially,
SP

]]> By: Sommelier http://www.socialprimer.com/2009/06/a-man-stands/comment-page-1/#comment-259 Sommelier Thu, 04 Jun 2009 04:34:22 +0000 http://new.socialprimer.com/?p=1012#comment-259 My Dad asked me, when I was a boy, "What does a gentleman do standing up, that lady does sitting down, that a dog does on three legs?" The answer, of course, is; "Shakes hands." A groaner, perhaps, but I never forgot the lesson he was teaching me. My Dad asked me, when I was a boy, “What does a gentleman do standing up, that lady does sitting down, that a dog does on three legs?” The answer, of course, is; “Shakes hands.” A groaner, perhaps, but I never forgot the lesson he was teaching me.

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